Frequently Asked Questions
"What is YB3?"
YB3 stands for "Your Bigender Big Brother" (YBBB), a monthly digital zine dedicated to my experience as a bigender man. You'll read stories about my gender journey, get access to important community resources, see queer-centered artwork, and so much more! It's since expanded to a blog dedicated to discussing multigender identities and topics, as well as posting newly coined terms.
What is "Gender Buddies"?
Gender Buddies was a mini project where I turned gender labels into interesting creatures with a variety of elemental alignments and abilities (Yes, sort of like Pokemon.) The initially planned 120 are done, but I take requests!
"I use [specific set of pronouns]. I can call myself bigender?"
I cannot make this decision for you. Only you can decide if calling yourself bigender feels right for you. There are no rules for being bigender and pronouns do not equal gender. Also, this extends to gender expression and your preference for gendered terms: Those also do not determine your gender.
"I am [insert AGAB here]. Can I call myself [insert label here]?"
Please don't reveal your AGAB to strangers on the internet. This is not a safe thing to do and when I say "Don't blindly trust strangers with your personal info", I am not exempt from that rule. You don't know me or know what I might do with your personal information. That being said, your AGAB has nothing to do with what labels you're "allowed" to call yourself. What matters is if you think a label feels right to you.
"Can I be bigender and [insert label here]?"
The answer to this is pretty much always "yes". You can use multiple labels for your gender, which means you can be bigender and a number of other things all at the same time.
"Can I share my gender experience with you?"
Absolutely! I love to hear what people have to say about their genders and what labels they use for themselves. I'm also a sucker for neopronouns or labels that are very similar to my own. However, you don't even have to be multigender to share your story with me. I'm always glad to hear it! (Just... please don't share anything about your body with me. I've had that happen multiple times and it's very weird.)
"I love this term you coined! Can I put it on this gender wiki?"
My stance on this has changed so yes, you are very much allowed to add my terms to gender wiki sites, Carrds, Instagram pages, and any other place meant to be informative. The only thing I ask is that you wait until a term is on the YB3 Wiki before adding it to another wiki, just in case I need to make any changes to the flag or definition! Plus, the wiki will always have the most definitive information on terms and details may be expanded on that aren't included in the coining post. Feel free to send DMs or asks if you have any questions about any of my terms.
"Can I add my coined term to the YB3 Wiki?"
The YB3 Wiki was originally intended to be a curation of all my work. I think that if I helped you coin a term or come up with a flag, we can work something out and I can add it to my wiki under a specific category for terms I helped with. I'm not so sure yet because I haven't seen enough interest, but we might be able to make it work someday.
"Can I request a flag?"
Always! Requests are always open and I love to take the time to make pride flags. It's what I do best and most frequently after all! Feel free to request a flag on my blog and it'll get posted there whenever I finish it!
"Can I coin a gendervir term?"
Absolutely! Gendervir is not a closed system of genders that only I'm allowed to add to. Feel free to coin anything related to gendervir, genderera, or genderavire. You can also request to have your related coined term linked to their corresponding pages on the YB3 Wiki. Just ask!
"Are you AMAB or AFAB? Why don't you call yourself transmasculine if you are a transgender man? What do you mean you're not male or female?"
Part of my journey to reject binarity as a concept involves analyzing the dichotomies I'm expected to place myself within. AGAB is one of those binaries that I don't feel comfortable participating in. Being assigned a gender at birth is an event that happened to me and has nothing to do with my current physiology or how I identify gender-wise.I don't call myself transmasculine because that term sets up very specific expectations that I cannot meet. My masculinity looks like traditional masculinity, but is of a maverine quality. I have plenty of essays on the subject and this section is long enough as it is, but just know that I am transmaverine and that I define my masculinity in an abinary way.As for sex, the male/female binary does not fit my experience. I don't want people to hear "male" or "female" and have certain expectations of what my body looks like. I find that to be very weird! I am of a nonbinary sex, to put it very simply. I'm still exploring the many possibilities of sex terms outside of male and female.
"If your sex isn't male or female, doesn't that mean you're trying to be intersex?"
Intersex is something you are born with and involves variable sex traits that can't be neatly defined as either strictly male or strictly female. This is not an identity you can adopt later in life. My rejection of the sex binary means I am finding different ways to refer to my sex, not that I'm trying to be something I cannot physically become.